Love is a broad, broad word.
I was caught up in the moment!
I didn’t really mean to hurt anyone?
And besides, now you know,
That it wasn’t going to work out.
This follows me around,
And there’s nothing, I can do about it.
All I can speak on, is my truth.
Spanish Translation
El amor es una palabra amplia, muy amplia.
¡Estaba atrapado en el momento!
¿Realmente no quise lastimar a nadie?
Y además, ahora ya sabes,
Que no iba a funcionar.
¡Esto me sigue, siempre!
Y no hay nada que puedo hacer al respecto.
Lo único que puedo decir, es que esta es mi realidad.
Traducido Por: ElRoyPoet, 2019
THIS IS ONLY A SONG, NOBODY IS A FREEBIRD…
“Do not do or cause your loved one to do, anything that will impede the flow of love.” Do not do or cause your partner to do anything that will impede the flow of communication. If the river is dammed, you or your partner will either drown or die from thirst, depending on which side you’re on. Think about it today. I thought of it too late! By: ElRoyPoet
6 Reasons Why People Leave The One They Loved—When They
- Don’t feel respected.
- Don’t feel emotionally supported.
- Lack non-sexual physical intimacy.
- Don’t feel adequate.
- Don’t feel listened to.
- Don’t feel like they’re in a committed relationship.
Top 3 viewer comments:
- I have been in a total of six relationships, all of which were short-lived. While this helped me understand why people leave me early, I still feel confused. I worry that there are reasons they are not telling me, which makes it hard to trust in any future relationships, whether they are platonic or romantic. I am not sure if these experiences have changed me for better or worse, or if I just haven’t found my special someone yet. Feeling irrationally afraid of being left alone is depressing because I can’t explain why or what happened. Sometimes I worry so much about my friends not liking me that I act impulsively and say silly things. It’s difficult to explain to others how heartbreak can change a person. I am trying to become a better, more whole version of myself, but progress is challenging.
- When you’re married, there are only a few reasons you can leave, and they need to be significant, like domestic assault, adultery, or illegal activity. If you are not yet married, you have more flexibility to leave for smaller reasons. Marriage is considered a sacred union that requires careful consideration before making lifelong vows, especially the commitment to stand by each other for better or worse. If your partner is not contributing equally to the relationship, it is important to address the issue verbally. If your partner decides to leave because he is upset that you confronted him, it does not necessarily mean you caused the separation.
- I have one major issue with this video, specifically regarding the “emotional connection” aspect. My concern lies in the fact that people may forget that oxytocin stops being produced after a certain period of time, leading to the fading of the feeling of “being in love”. At this point, it is crucial for the individual to remember the fundamental qualities of the person they loved and actively choose to continue loving them. Love is a complex concept—it begins as a sensation, transitions into a choice, and later reverts back to being a sensation. Getting married is supposed to signify, “I understand that there may come a time when I have doubts, but as long as we remain faithful and respectful to each other, we can find solutions together”. If you find that you can easily share your emotions with others but struggle to do so with your partner, it is a significant issue that should be addressed sooner rather than later. Do not feel ashamed about the level of emotional openness you experience with your significant other. The key is that both partners feel not only secure in each other’s presence but also courageous. Prioritize cognitive empathy over emotional responses. Depending on each other is not toxic; it is essential for a healthy relationship. This advice serves as a valuable checklist for navigating romantic relationships.
Op-ed: As we grow up, we often think of ourselves as the center of the universe. We believe that everyone around us is simply a supporting character in our own personal narrative. This sense of self-importance can be comforting, but as we mature, we begin to realize that we are not the main character in everybody’s story.
The hardest lesson that every young adult has to learn is that they are not the main character in everybody’s story. While we may have been the center of our enabling parent’s world growing up, as we branch out on our own, we come to understand that we are just one of many characters in the grand scheme of life.
It can be a tough pill to swallow, realizing that we are not the main focus of everyone around us. We may crave attention, affirmation, and validation from others, but the truth is that until we are in a legitimate, committed family relationship, our wishful thinking doesn’t really matter to anybody else.
We are the protagonist of our own story, with our own hopes, dreams, and struggles. While it is natural to want to be the main character in somebody else’s story, the reality is that we are just a piece of the puzzle in the lives of those around us. This realization can be humbling, but it is also liberating.
Once we understand that we are not the main character in everybody’s story, we can begin to focus on building meaningful relationships with others. We can learn to appreciate the unique roles that each person plays in our lives, and in turn, the roles that we play in theirs.
Ultimately, accepting that we are not the main character in everybody’s story allows us to foster deeper connections with those to whom we matter most. It teaches us empathy, humility, and the value of being a supportive and caring presence in the lives of others.
So, while it may be difficult to come to terms with the fact that we are not the main focus of everyone around us, it is an important lesson to learn. We are all interconnected in this world, each playing an important role in our human relationships. And in the end, that is what’s most important.
“Fearlessness is what love seeks,” Hannah Arendt wrote in her magnificent early work on love and how to live with fear. “Such fearlessness exists only in the complete calm that can no longer be shaken by events expected of the future […] Hence the only valid tense is the present, the Now.”
This notion of presence as the antidote to fear and the crucible of love is as old as the human heart, as old as the consciousness that first felt the blade of anticipatory loss pressed against the exposed underbelly of the longing for connection. Excerpt from The Four Buddhist Mantras for Turning Fear into Love
“To love without knowing how to love, wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen […] Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person. Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love!” Excerpts from “To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love.”
“Who is good, if he knows not who he is? And who knows what he is, if he forgets that things which have been made are perishable, and that it is not possible for one human being to be with another always?” Excerpt from Epictetus on Love and Loss: The Stoic Strategy for Surviving Heartbreak
“Do you think you don’t deserve healthy love because of your weight, your age, your career or any other perceived inadequacies you have manifested?” asks psychologist, relationships expert and author Marianne Vicelich. “Start loving yourself – flaws and all. A partner should be so lucky to be with you. The more you believe you deserve healthy love the more you will identify with the “red flags” or “warning bells” and attract a functional relationship.” Excerpt from 8 Ways to Move on After the Break Up of a Toxic Relationship
“Deep down, many victims of breadcrumbing know that they are being led on and strung along, says Li. ‘However, some may continue to stay in the relationship to avoid facing the painful truth that the breadcrumber really doesn’t care, and for fear of losing false security.’ If you find yourself in this situation, Li advises asking yourself: ‘Do I deserve better than the way I’m being treated in this relationship?’ The answer is almost definitely yes, and it may be time to consider distancing yourself unless healthier boundaries can be negotiated.” Excerpt from How to Tell if You’re Being Breadcrumbed in a Relationship, Friendship or at Work (‘Breadcrumbing’ is a subtle manipulation technique used to create a one-sided relationship. Here’s how to spot it.)
“Sensuality often hastens the ‘Growth of Love’ so much that the roots remain weak and are easily torn up.” By: Friedrich Nietzsche
“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it; there is no neutral exchange.” By: Brennan Manning
“Beware of those who weep with realization, for they have realized nothing.” By: Carlos Casteñeda
“When a man cannot introspectively confront his negative thoughts and emotions, he will always be conquered by them, communicating without composure and hurting all those whom he loves.” Quote paraphrased from “Battle Cry” By: Jason Wilson
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” Bible, 2 Corinthians 6:14
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18
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